Some of the places may be at your local Christian singles group at your local church or maybe even the local Starbucks. You may even have a lady friend who is married and her husband might have some friends that he might be willing to introduce you to.
I would just ask God to direct your path in your desire to find a mate and that made being a Christian single man who loves God with all of his heart and who wants to fulfill the Scripture, he that finds a wife find is a good thing and obtain his favor of the Lord.
"Christian Boy Meets Christian Girl" (WORLD, June 4, 2011) examined the confusion among Christian young men and women concerning relationships. It became the most-read article on worldmag.com last year, and many readers sent me letters based on their experiences. Here, for Valentine's Day, are excerpts from some:
"My college friends and I didn't date. ... Many had that fear in the back of our heads that if we didn't find the one during college, we never would. Then we found the perfect solution: We graduated. We and dozens of our friends found great Christian men who, outside of the pressures of the Christian college dating scene, confidently pursued us and asked us out, knowing that it might not work out. In most cases, it did, because we finally had a healthy perspective on dating-which was to follow God's leading, and not the long lists of expectations we discussed in 'dorm Bible studies.'... Perhaps the advice for these young Christians is: Don't think so hard (I know I needed the same advice) and don't read too many books on Christian dating. Let God take care of the orchestration in His perfect time."
I understand how easily we can slip into such an approach to sexuality and singleness, yet it isn't very well attuned to human nature or even all that biblical. People don't achieve something by focusing on what they're avoiding.
Now, to be very clear, I believe the sexual standard God calls us to is the self-control of abstinent singleness and faithful, self-giving monogamy within marriage. But the race is run looking forward — no matter how badly you ran the last mile. Paul said it was by "forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead" that he pursued his goal, "the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus."
I know he loves me, I just wish he’d treat me better sometimes.
Maybe it’s not the best relationship, but what’s the alternative? No one else is asking me out.
What if I can’t find anyone better? At least I’m not alone.
Ever had these thoughts about someone you are dating? I’ve been there. Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too. I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.
I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating.
Often Christian girls are told that their role in dating is simply to wait to be pursued. They are led to believe that there is nothing women can or should do to improve their dating life. Just have faith and wait on God’s timing. Whatever you do, “don’t chase boys!” Recently I read a church singles blog that went so far as to shame a girl for “taking matters into her own hands” simply because she wanted to tell a guy that she liked him.
In many ways there was a lot I and other single girls like about this myth: I have no responsibilities. I don’t have to take any risks. I just need to be myself and God will ensure someone will notice me. And being shy means that I am a ‘good’ Christian girl.
However, for me, as the years passed, I wondered if this was true. Was it biblical to simply wait and pray? It seemed that in every other area of life God requires my active participation. Finding a job, making friends, doing ministry, and going to seminary all required me to take some action. So why was dating any different? If I did something beyond praying and waiting, did that mean I was taking over for men and sinfully thwarting God’s design for marriage?
